December 29, 2010

Holiday behavior

Yes, the snow hit, but nothing too crazy for us.  In fact, the only note I will make of it is that good ‘ol Champ was out there the day it arrived, snowblowing everything in sight.  

champ snowblows
(see the snow piled up on the window sill…)

“Everything” would include our lake skating rink so that Bear can test out his new pair of hockey skates that Santa brought (I’m SURE that will be a post in the future!). 


Trot likes the opening part best of all 

We all got just what we wanted for Christmas.

In other news, Bear has started a behavior chart and I keep meaning to mention it here...

but haven’t. Or didn’t have time to.  Or forgot.

So hey, it's the New (almost) Year and a new chance for me to tell you about it!

I never was one for full on behavior charts, but I do think a bit of simple incentive here and there can’t hurt,  Especially when used to commend a genuine good action rather than to act as a carrot in front of the donkey child.  I originally got the idea here and then tweaked it a bit.


In our household God, Others, Self is the order of the day and we figured now was as good as ever to start passing that mantra on to Bear.  The sub categories under it are: show love/listen/give thanks, speak kindly/hands that help

I took that picture of the chart waaaaaaaaaay back when we were beginning this whole thing, so there are not too many stickers, but you can still get the point.  As Bear goes about his day, if Champ or I (or whomever he is with) see him doing a good deed that matches with the chart, we might compliment him on it and have him help us put a sticker in that category.  So, for example:

feed the dogs without being asked- sticker in "hands that help"

gives a genuine, warm greeting to one of his friends- sticker in “show love”

and so on.  We don’t reward EVERY awesome deed of his, but as we see it and if it comes at a good “teachable moment”, then we pounce on it.  As for accumulated stickers ( he also gets to pick one to wear each time he puts one on the chart), it’s open to interpretation.  Usually, once he gets about 4-5 stickers in each of the categories we have a small celebration: extra time to play, special snack after naptime, pick out something small at the bookstore, etc.  It’s not so much about the reward, but the completion of a goal and I’m happy (and honestly surprised) to report that Bear takes more pride in completing a row than gaining a treat.

I’m all for conserving paper, so once a row is filled with stickers, I draw a line under the stickers and then slash out each completed category above it so that, basically, we are starting with a clean slate.

It’s simple enough for us and yet gets the point across.  As Bear gets older, we’ll adapt it to his needs (or who knows?  Maybe do away with the whole thing), but for now it helps us teach him proper behavior and it gives him some positive goals to work for.

Now enough of all this good behavior talk, I’m going to bed so that I can spend tomorrow on the ice with my up and coming hockey player!!!

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